Its been 2 weeks I am writing about these. In this concluding post, let me talk about the prices that we ‘have to’ or ‘choose to’ pay.

My first point – If we understand the real crux of choices, we must understand that it is what we ‘choose to’ pay rather than ‘have to’ pay. ‘Have to’ gives us levy… it shows compulsion… something beyond our control! However, that is not the case. When we make choices, when we manage our dilemmas, this is one of the thoughts which leads us. So, let’s get it clear… We ‘choose’ what prices we are ready to pay. This could be painful… However, covering it with ‘have to’ means cheating our own self. Besides, it makes us further weak!

Second point – It is important to identify and understand the ‘real’ price to pay. Asking right questions at the right time to self and to those who are involved leads us to this. If we simply surrender to emotional outburst, we may simply end up messing us the situation further. Analytical thinking, maintaining emotional stability and facing the ‘truth’ with courage shows us the right path. Mistakes realized or dilemma resolved may not always be an end point here. Facing and handling situation thereafter is our responsibility and part of the process.

Third point – More we shield, defend, try to save our face or dilute the whole scenario with ignorance, neglect or simply a casual approach, it may either worsen the situation or we may end up bearing a long term or even permanent loss. This loss could be any – relationship, trust, respect or even self! It is ironical to lose self while saving self. Wisdom is in having a clear understanding of what we want in long run. If want to see our ‘self’ with a sense of pride… be ready to bleed ‘self’ to pay that price.

Pause a bit… think of any such scenario of dilemma or when you have committed a mistake, which was irreversible… And the price you ‘chose to’ pay…